Dear Free man:

You are welcome. I am glad to read that your kids’ well-being is your priority.

For the purpose of fighting for your marriage (your question, title of thread), you first have to  figure out why you have been cheating on your wife and lying to her many times (“I have not being a good husband I cheated many times and I lied”) while you “love her so  much and ..want the best for her”.

Have to  know the reasons for your behavior, what motivates you, otherwise, it will be difficult to make your life better. Not knowing reasons and motivations is like navigating life in the dark, without a source of light, bumping into walls, confused.

Asking and answering questions may be that source  of light that you need.  If you would   like, please answer the following:

1. When you wrote that you “have not being a good husband”- in what ways were you not a good husband, besides cheating on her and  lying  about the cheating?

2. Did you lie to her about other topics besides the  cheating?

3. Did you cheat  on her with women as well or only with men?

4. Did you have homosexual encounters with men before you were married, if so how long  before/ at what age  onward?

5. What  do you mean by “I don’t like men at all”- what don’t you like about men?

6. Regarding your sentence: “I’ve never felt attraction for men I don’t know why I did that I like women so maybe I need to find the reason why”- If you never felt  attraction for  men, does it mean you didn’t enjoy having sex with them?

7. Can you give me an example of a random encounter with a man, where did it happen, when and how it came about (without giving any sexual specifics)?

anita