Dear  Eli:

In your original post you wrote: “He told me he is married has kids and family but I am his family as well”– this is the part that may explain why you feel like you will be cheating on him, the feeling that you and him are a family.

You feel very attached to him, had great time with him day after day as he visited you, and as you traveled together, so you feel like a couple. You wish he didn’t have a wife and you get angry that she  is part  of his  life, but you feel better thinking that they sleep in separate bedrooms. So… in your mind, you and  him are a couple and his wife is a woman who sleeps in a separate bedroom, I figure.

But will you definitely not be cheating on him if you break up with him first and then date other men?

anita