Dear Eli:

I feel better reading that it is only “one side of (your) character is so selfish” and not all  of you.

Well, here is an idea: he supposedly lives with his wife as a roommate, they interact but have no sexual interactions and they sleep in separate bedroom. You know his situation.

What if you date another man, have no sexual interactions with that man and tell your married lover about it, so he knows your situation just like  you know his. He interacts with another woman and  has no sex with her, you interact with another man and have  no sex with him.

Does this make sense to you, as a possible solution to your current dilemma?

anita