Dear Eli:

What I want for you is the same a s what I want for myself: to live the rest of my life in as much peace as possible: peace of  mind, peace in relationships.

In achieving that peace, as much as possible of it (our world is not a peaceful place), I believe in looking at reality and see it as it is. Not as we wish it would be, but as it really is.

We all have basic needs: food, shelter, love. What I mean by love is a connection with at least one other person where there is honesty, empathy/ affection, and respect between the two. One relationship where  you are comfortable being yourself. Let’s look at your relationship with your mother: no honesty on her part, no empathy, no respect. Instead she is punishing, trying  to make you feel badly.

For your peace, better end that relationship. It doesn’t  matter who the person is, be it a parent or anyone else, if that person disrespects you and punishes  you, don’t have that  person in  your life at all.

Let’s look at the married man: he told you most recently, “be patient please”.

Patient for what? What is his plan that you should be patient with???

anita