Dear Eli:

I  just re-read your previous posts so to get all the information I need and I came across two things I need to ask you about because I didn’t understand those enough. Can you take your time and explain the following as clearly as you can:

1. You wrote: “if I leave him my mother will blame me all the times oh you were with him for 5 years now how will you support your self maybe you want back to my home”-

do you mean that your mother wants you to stay with him for financial reasons, that she  thinks you will not have enough money to survive without him, that you should stay with him for financial support… and does she want you to live with her, in her home?

Or does she want you to end the relationship with him, telling you that he is using you?

What is her position, opinions about your relationship with this married man?

2. You wrote: “I had fight with him I told him you just use me and play with me and waste my life with fake hope… he said oh I wanted to have lover but you want be more… maybe you saw some guys.. they just want take you to bed no thing else and then he said some bad words”-

Did he say that he wanted to have a lover and not more, or that you wanted that and then changed your mind and wanted more than a lover? Also, when he suggested that other guys will only want to take you to bed and nothing else, what did he mean by “nothing else”? Also, what bad words did he use?

anita