Dear  Eli:

I think that his plan needs to  be very clear to you.  Let  me  see if I understand  his plan:

in five years, the end of 2023 or the beginning of 2024, he will tell his wife that he has a lover and wants to live with you. At that time, if she says: okay, then he moves in with  you and goes to check on his kids who  will be  living with her in the house where they now live.

If she says it is not okay, then he  tells her: I am moving in with my lover anyway. You have a choice: to leave the  house or   stay  in the house, to get a divorce of  not  get a divorce, but regardless,  I am moving in with my lover.

Did I  understand correctly?

* And  by the way, why is  the plan in five years, not before and not after?

anita