Dear Eli:

Reads like he has a terrible marriage, that he made a poor choice  of a wife,  considering she mistreated or still mistreats his 16 year old from his previous marriage, and given that she fights with him a lot, if that happens in front of the children. And he is a bad husband for  not  making  the marriage work or leaving it. He shouldn’t be doing both,  a marriage and a love relationship with you. He  should  do one  or the other.

I wish he resolved that marriage for the best interest of his children.

It  is not looking good to me, meaning, he doesn’t have a clear, good plan,  not good enough. It is an  iffy kind of  plan that depends on the reaction of whom he describes as  a highly emotional, unreasonable,  argumentative and impulsive woman, his wife.

I suppose what matters most is that you make the best choices for yourself, make your life better on the short term and long term. If you do, it will happen to be what is best  for all involved.

anita