Dear Eli:

One thing you are worried about is someone reading this thread and figuring out who you are and who this man is that you wrote about. One solution is that you no longer post  on this thread and start a new thread. When you leave this thread alone it will no longer appear on the first page and move back to back pages. You and I can continue to communicate on a new thread where no details about this man will be mentioned. It is easy to start a new thread, as easy  as it was  starting  this thread.

Would you like to do this next? if so, I will wait half an hour or so for your new thread and will respond to it  next.

anita