Dear Maria Mango:

The fighting has to stop (“fighting between my husband and I”)- aggression doesn’t belong in a supposedly loving relationship. Aggression in a marriage harms the wife/husband when depressed and when not depressed.

Whatever choice you make, make no fighting/ no aggression the rule, for as long as you are in a relationship with him.

Living in a tiny one room studio apartment is very difficult, for one person or for two. It  is probably a good idea  for the two of you, individually and/or together take at least one long walk outside, daily, or spend time at  a  gym every day, so that you spend time in a greater space and  in the open.

I hope you post again.

anita