Dear Shelbyville

I have not posted on these forums in some time, but after logging back in and reading your story I felt I must.

You say everyone tells you that this is his lost but you can’t see that, why is this?

I’ve learnt now that we continually blame ourselves for the things that go wrong to us. How could it not be something we did?

The truth is, people are strange creatures. We act in the strangest ways and there isn’t necessarily a cookie cutter shape for us.

For me, Self Esteem is something that you have to continually work on. Having more self esteem is something that we all regularly talk about, but what does it actually mean?

I would advise you to think about taking care of and respecting yourself. What do you like to do? What makes you happy?

For example, in a similar low point I learnt how to love myself again. I started reading, cooking, spending quality time with friends and doing things for others.

These were things that brought me happiness and made me realise that I could do great things. They increased my self esteem.

We will never be continually happy, but can we spend the majority of our time just being content?

My best.

Michael.