Dear Nichole:

I hope this new year is a good year for you, soon enough.

“I just want to maintain my confidence and feel stable in life. Sometimes I do  and sometimes I feel lost. I am so sad to start this new year this way. I was hoping for a better start”-

don’t evaluate how you are doing in life based  on how you feel, not at this point and  not  for a long  time to come. Like I wrote to you in my last post, distress will be  your companion for some time .

Focus on what you do/ how you function, not on how you feel. Evaluate a good day or a bad day  not by how you felt during the day, but by how you functioned that day.

Why don’t you list a few objectives  at the  beginning of each day and look at that list at different times  of the day, especially when you feel lonely and distressed?

anita