Dear Jack:

I misunderstood, I thought that the last communication with her was about being friends, not boyfriend-girlfriend, but  friends. So what  happened is that a few days ago, after the physical intimacy, she wanted to have  no contact at all with  you and you agreed to it. Did I understand correctly this  time?

If I understood correctly, I don’t trust that the relationship is over at this point. Maybe it is, but too soon to tell.  The good thing you had  with her were those conversations: “We had conversations I wouldn’t ever have with by best friends”, and it reads to me that you were respectful  toward each other. Honest, open conversations plus respect is a whole  lot  of promise in an intimate relationship.

A very different kind  of a relationship than the one with your mother with whom honest, open conversations are not possible and respect on her  part toward you doesn’t exist (“She screams, calls me  an idiot and so on..”)

So you do have something positive going for you, your ability and  willingness to communicate honestly, openly and respectfully.

Like  you wrote, it got too much  for her,  understandably, to have to pick you up from the  streets when you had some mental breakdowns, if I understood correctly. If only you were  able to lower the burden on her by controlling your behavior better so to not put  more burden on her than she can handle.

anita