Dear ImJWL:

Before responding to your most recent post, I was wondering about the major fights you had with your husband and you hitting him (again, excellent choice leaving that marriage!)- do you want to share a bit about the fights?

Regarding telling this man that you are legally married and going through a divorce, I would tell him just that, that you are legally married but separated and going (or intend to go, if you didn’t start yet) through a divorce, and that there are no children involved. You can tell  him a bit about what the divorce will entail, or how  long you think it will take for you to be legally divorced.

I understand that your husband didn’t try to contact you since the separation and did not threaten you or a future boyfriend that you may have with violence  or harassment, therefore no need to warn a new man in your life with what doesn’t present a danger to him.

I would not go on and on about the  marriage and the divorce to  him at this point, but keep  it short and  simple.

anita