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Dear Lily:
You wrote to me earlier that your father projected his criticism of his own body weight into you, calling you “fat”. You are doing a similar thing with this guy, K: it is you who care so much about hurting him and you are projecting this care into him, incorrectly believing that he cares so much about hurting you!
You think that he cares so much about hurting you that he is now “abused or severely damaged”.
No, you care a lot about hurting him, not the other way around. If he cared about hurting you, he would have answered your messages on time. He would have called you to ask how you are doing.
He would have called today to ask how you are feeling, if he cared.
Don’t you see that?
anita