Dear laelithia:

I wish you weren’t suffering right now, or at all, at anytime.

You are focused now on this one regret, obsessing about it. But if he did give the relationship another chance, I don’t see it getting any better. You are now receptive to what he says because he broke up with you. But if the relationship resumed, sooner or later the same-old-same-old dynamics will resume as well.

Psychotherapy with a quality therapist, exploring what happened with your mother and what is still happening is what I am suggesting to you. But I know you are focused on this man because he broke up with you, and you probably can’t think of anything else.

I will ask you this: if he gave the relationship another chance, what will you do different in the relationship?

anita