Dear Aila:

You are welcome. You  wrote: “While I do want answers, I don’t feel entitled to them”.

If he contacts you and if you spend time with him again, you have the right to ask questions.

If it so happens that sex is a consideration again, in relationship with him or with any other man in the future, you don’t only have a right to ask questions, you are entitled to honest answers.

In your original post you wrote: “So now I’m so confused. Why is he interested in having sex if he doesn’t want any intimacy? (Sex is so intimate)”- for you it is intimate, for many it is.  But for many, more so men than women, it is a physical act, an act of biological attraction, build up and release. Nothing personal.

You do have the right to ask a man about what sex means to him and you are entitled for an honest answer, an answer consisting of words and actions, both.

anita