Dear cranberry:

I suggest you start being truthful to him (and to anyone with whom you have a personal relationship, at the least). Tell him the truth, don’t say “okay” when it is not okay for you. If he tells you what bothers him don’t punish him for telling him his truth by suggesting, ex., that he dumps you. Instead, ask him to tell you more about what is bothering him, or a bit more (so you don’t get overwhelmed), and then a bit more and consider what he tells you.

If what he tells you is true, think about what to change in your behavior so to make the relationship work for the two of you.

Don’t expect things to be swept under the carpet, the sweeping will not remain under.

Don’t fight, instead resolve misunderstandings and conflicts in a peaceful way. Make the relationship a win-win thing, win for both. Don’t try to win at his expense.

Are you able to do these things, do you want to?

anita