Dear Kara:

This is how I see your situation: your parents did wrong when they treated you better than they treated your sister. They were short sighted, they didn’t predict that by treating you better, they were seeing to it that you will be treated badly by your sister.

If they treated their two daughters equally, no favoritism, you wouldn’t be suffering years of mistreatment by your sister.

Problem now is that the mistreated (your sister, having been mistreated by her parents) has turned to  one who mistreats, mistreating you.

I would like to communicate with you further on the matter. I don’t think time is a solution, like you suggested. Maybe more understanding will lead to improvement. For more understanding I ask:

-has your sister expressed anger at your parents who treated her as less than you?

-do you believe that your parents were right to treat her as less, that they were justified?

anita