Dear Maggie:

His wife is very wrong to involve her young children, 5, 7 an 10, in her fight with her husband, to mistreat them this way, terribly wrong.

He is wrong to have had the affair with you, and in so doing, contributing to the unfortunate situation where his young children are exposed to their mother’s abuse, and to the overall distressing situation they are in.

You are wrong to have that affair with him and in so doing, to have contributed to  the situation his young children are in. You wrote about their mother,  your lover’s wife: “She asked me why we had cheated on his children, I said we had cheated on her not her children”-

your answer to her is not correct: you did cheat her children, in cooperation with their father, cheated them from a safe, calm home, or a safer, calmer home.

There are three adults involved here and three young children, three guilty people and three innocent people.

What are your plans at this point?

anita