Dear Eeman:

I re-read your original post and your later posts. Seems to me that the right thing for you to do is to let him know that you are not interested in a relationship with him other than friendship. I don’t see a reason for you to rush into any relationship at all in general, or into resuming this relationship in particular.

“maybe it’s a bit odd to put myself first for so long”- it is a good thing for you to put yourself first for so long and for as long as the rest of your life, for as long as you are honest with others and you don’t mistreating others. As a single woman who is not a mother, it is your personal responsibility put yourself first.

anita