Dear Lily:

If  a person disrespects you repeatedly, let him go, don’t have him in your life.

Every person is born good, every child is eager to  please the adults in his life.

You can see this part at times in any person’s face, or voice, even in old age. You get glimpses of that child inside. But when that child inside is locked in a person who chooses to disrespect you, what can you do?

You can’t extract that child out of the disrespecting adult and give him an alternative good childhood so that he grows up into a good, respectful adult  in an alternative universe.

You  have to deal with the adult in front of you. When you see these glimpses  of the child locked inside, it is so very sad, but there is nothing you  or I can do about it. It is sad, isn’t it.

anita