Dear Maggie:

Earlier you wrote: “One of things about our relationship was that a cuddle was enough to take me to a place where I felt safe”- reads to me that you feeling safe with him was only that, a feeling.

In other words, reads to me that he doesn’t function effectively, that he kind of stumbles in the dark, not knowing what he is doing, acting senselessly, impulsively.

A sensible person would consider how to go about things so to produce results, consider a few steps ahead before taking the first step, and plan his steps so to not cause his children to suffer unnecessarily. He didn’t do any of these things, did he.

I will soon be away from the computer for the next fifteen hours.

anita