Hello Anita,

By discarding my mother I mean by mimising all contact with her. Forgetting her. cutting ties so to speak .

It’s interesting, my mother has minimised nearly all contact with her mother and I see it as such a shame. I understand my mother’s rage at her (my grandmother has her favourites, gossips etc) but my mother isn’t happy anyway having cut ties with my grandmother. All she has done is isolate herself from people in general. There has to be a certain point as an adult whereby you accept your parent as never being able to give you the love they should have given you as a child. I think my mother’s issue with her mother lies here. Consequently she is angry and resentful. Id prefer to find a different way, a different solution.

I’ve been reading on the dead mother complex and I really relate to it. Have you read it at all? It’s very interesting. Although to be honest I don’t think I should delve any deeper into psychology books. I need to live! Tomorrow I am going to a neighbouring city and visiting a friend, I hope I can leave my head a little bit during this visit.

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