Dear AnxiousAsusual:

Here are a few possibilities:

1. He doesn’t want to be like his father and is heavily invested in not cheating on his girlfriend/ future wife. He is also invested in not being aggressive, unlike his father, being gentle, maybe overly so, to make sure he is the opposite of his father.

2. He may feel guilty providing financially for you, feeling he is betraying his mother by not providing for her and instead providing for you, similar to his father providing for his new family, not for the old  one. (Is he helping his mother financially?)

3. He sees his sexual drive as something dangerous that may lead him to be like his father, cheating, and that may interfere with his sexual performance.

What do you think?

anita