Dear Nadia:

Good to know your name!

You told your mother and your older sister that you don’t want to go to your aunt’s house, but they refused to listen to you. Your older sister told you that if you  don’t go to your aunt’s house, it meant that you didn’t love your mother.

It is not true what your older sister told you. She told you what she did because she wanted you to go to your aunt’s, so she lied to you. But you believed her and to  prove that you love your mother, you moved into your aunt’s house and lived there for five months or more, being verbally abused by her and by your cousin every day.

Love does not suggest that the person loved will suffer abuse. Love wants the person loved to be free of abuse. Love is honest. Love doesn’t lie.

I suggest you no longer listen to anything your older sister tells you. I suggest you don’t live with your aunt, never again!

I suggest that if you buy soap, you decide what soap you buy, if you like strawberry fragrance, let it be strawberry.

I think you used the right words to describe yourself, a “nomadic person”. You were away from your mother when you were 14. I have no doubt that you love your mother more than anything, ever since you were young. Living away from her was very difficult. And then, following your older sister’ lie, proving  your love for your mother by receiving abuse every day for months, was very harmful to you.

Why did your mother and older sister want you to live with your aunt, what was their motivation?

anita