Dear Hella:

You do  have the right to your anger and any other emotion that you experience.

In your original post you wrote: “I also want to preface by saying that yes, I know that by being involved with someone who  can’t make up their mind about you, you are putting your own worth down and accepting sh*&^ conditions, but I didn’t know any better at the time and nobody is perfect. So please accept that that is how I dealt with things and please don’t judge me too harshly for it”.

Someone judged you harshly early in your life, and that someone has a mental representative in your brain (aka the inner critic) judging you equally as harshly, or worse. You projected that harsh inner critic to the reader, assuming the reader will judge you harshly as well.

Who judged you harshly early in life?

anita