Dear Hella:

I ask because there is more for me to understand. I don’t always feel comfortable asking questions but there are times there is no  other way for me to understand enough:

The group may not know much if anything about the on-again-off-again two year relationship between you and him, but they do know about the few months official part of your relationship with him, correct? I mean, didn’t you and him present yourselves as a couple for a few months,  in the past?

Also, what is his narrative, what he has been telling the group about the nature of his relationship with you?

anita