Dear Sofioula,

Thanks for your reply. You were not harsh, but what you said could be true. My friends also said the same. Actually he was in a 3 year relationship before. They had a live in relationship for 1 year during those 3 years but his ex had to leave the country for higher studies, for which she had plans already. So they decided to stay in a long distance relationship, which lasted for around 2 years. During those 2 years, they met thrice. So they had their set of beautiful memories as well, I suppose.

Yes, I  do fear that he might be keeping me as his back up gf. And I agree if I will ask him whether he loves me or not, he will not answer that as a complete unanimous yes.  However, he wants that as well, that I should be his no 1 priority and the only girl he thinks about, or atleast that is what he says to me. He just did not take time after his previous break up and in a few weeks started a relationship with me. I understand his point of view. He actually does deserve that space, and I am ready to give him that but I would like to break up whereas, all he wants is a break for sometime.

As someone who has already experienced messy relationships before, I see a pattern here, and he could go back and forth to his ex, but I could be wrong. I do feel he is worth the wait because of the time we had together. But I also agree with you that it will be emotionally and physically draining for me. Things would not be the same even if he comes back. I need to think about this more I guess. Thanks for putting the things into perspective. I have been thinking more about him and his dilemma and not about myself at all.