Dear Suzanne:

Basically what he suggested to you is that you wait for him while he is pursuing another woman. Not fair. I would say then that a break is not a good idea. I would offer him a choice between a breakup with her or a breakup with you, a choice for him to make now, not at his convenience, his timing.

At best you can suggest to him to contact you in the future to let you know how his life is going.

If he does do that, and he lets you know at a future date that he has broken up with her and is interested in you, then you can ask him questions, have conversations and maybe entertain the idea of getting into an exclusive relationship.

It is an if, there are all kinds of ifs, in life. Make the breakup your opportunities to explore other ifs.

anita