Dear laelithia:

I am not at all surprised you dreamed of him. Your focus on this ex has been going on for a long time and is rooted in your early life troubling relationship with your mother, so of course, your focus on him will not disappear for long, magically resolve. But I think you are heading  in the right direction and over time, as you continue to be more and more aware and asserting a non-personal relationship with your mother, this focus will evaporate.

My suggestion is that regardless of future dreams and reminders that you stop sharing them with your boyfriend. (I hope he .. didn’t grow to like you sharing about your ex, that would be troubling, an indication of his lack of emotional health).

The closure and validation you dream of receiving from your ex and the reassurance you are receiving from your boyfriend when you share with him about your ex, it is possible for you to give it to yourself. Not right now, but like I wrote, I think you are heading in the right direction and if you persist, if you do practice “patience and faith in this process, you will be able to give yourself that closure, validation and assurance.

anita