Dear Felix:

An after thought: except that the problem is not women being after money, hypergamy as you termed it. Your anger is not about that, so it will not be resolved if you did find a woman who is okay with a man not owning a home and lots of money. Your anger is not about that.

It is similar to people who are very angry about this or that political issue- their anger is directed at a particular issue, or topic, but their anger predates that topic and is fueled by an early life experience that is not at all about a political or social or economic event or dynamic.

Attend to your original hurt and anger and fear, that predates your romantic relationships, is my suggestion.

anita