dear anita

thank you so much for your kind replies. It helps a lot.

The things you said sound familiar.  I know the answer to the question

“All the times you didn’t do what you wanted to do and instead did what he wanted you to do, all the times you expressed the opinions he approved of, all that you did, did you succeed in making him a happy man?”

should be no, but I don´t really think so. I think that me being who he wanted me to be, doing what he wanted me to do,  indeed made and still makes him happy. I can see he´s proud of me whenever I say things he likes or thinks about in the same way. If I´m not the perfect daughter he gets in a bad mood and is easily irritated.

Whenever I am how he wants his daughter to be, his whole world is perfect and he´s happy.

Do you know what I mean?