Dear Sophie:

“Feeling stuck” is the title of your thread. Trapped is another word you used, “trapped in a job”.

We need to be free, as free as is possible for us, while still being ethical, that is, socially responsible. Examples: a mother who feels trapped should not simply move away and leave her child behind but find another solution that will not hurt her child. An employee feeling trapped should not quit without proper notice, giving the employer a reasonable time to find a replacement. A married woman should not leave her husband the moment she finds out that her husband got sick (in-sickness-and-in-health was the promise).

I say, figure out what is your social responsibility in your circumstance: a notice at your job? A series of honest conversations on your part with your boyfriend? Examining all possibilities?

Fulfill your social responsibilities and then attend to that “call of the wild”, to that inborn desire to be free.

anita