Dear Allison:

Welcome back. If you want to read your previous threads click on your username and then click on Topics.

You are about 46 and you want to have fun. To have fun doesn’t mean that you have to have irresponsible fun, that you act like an irresponsible teenager.

You are a woman now, into your fifth decade. Yes, you can have fun but responsibly: shop for a good divorce attorney, get good legal help, initiate and proceed with a divorce. Gather your children and explain to them that you started divorce proceedings and that you are sorry, so very sorry for the emotional  pain they already went through. Tell them that you will do all you can to let them know what is going on, keep them updated.

Then do what a responsible woman and mother needs to do: live separately from your husband (who lives where- determine through good legal help) and proceed.

anita