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hey Shelbyville
I feel soooooo deeply for you it’s a horrible feeling. I had anxiety myself from the age of 12 till I was 25 which then got postnatal anxiety and post partum to from a break up.
I tried going to a doctor and they told me the worst for my case was go to a therapist or take medication. I started reading up about Buddhism and spending more time in nature. digging deep into myself to find out who I truly am and what I actually enjoy and then spent my free time doing this.
it’s very very hard to be alone when you have such a long time being inseparable with somebody you have deep feelings for. it’s like losing a limb.
but you havnt and it’s just change and as humans we don’t like change and we have to readjust, change routine, in a way change our aspects in life. and it’s hard really hard but as humans we are the strongest mammals in the world and there’s more to life.
I found after 3 years I loved being by myself. I’m still grieving now over somebody else but hey there’s lots of positives in your life too.
I read on a reply from you that you come from a loving family, imagine if you didn’t. your family clearly know you and understand you more than anybody, spend more time with them so your not on your own, try and find a forum where you can meet people in the same situation and build each other up.
I know it sounds and looks easy to say I know it’s really not, but taking one step at a time is not going to hurt you, making a change is not going to hurt you.
as humans we go through life going 1000 miles an hour and we miss out what actually positive because we’re so used to them and focus on the negatives because they are more dramatic.
It’s good to feel emotion and it’s good to get them out if you didn’t you then would be strange…you say it’s been 15 days…wouldn’t everybody still be upset and down over a relationship break up. hell its been a year since my relationship broke down and I still think about him everyday and can’t move on. but I don’t want to. and the last thing on your mind should also be moving on.
your grieving give yourself a pat on the back for speaking out your feelings and don’t even think about moving on except for with yourself…write down your goals for the year, emotionally, physically, work, achievements.
and work on them don’t give yourself blame or Greig and the year will fly by.
good luck and I really hope I’ve helped even 1% ?? x