Dear RebeccaW91:

He might turn out to be an excellent boyfriend for you and maybe even a partner in life, if the two of you work together as a team, helping each other.

There is a whole lot a team of two can do together that neither one of you can or will do alone. It is amazing how helpful (and rare) it is to have a safe relationship where there is no aggression, no arguments, only empathy and respect. That does wonders.

On the other hand if you communicate to him that he is weird and odd and has to un-weird himself on his own before you will consider a relationship with him, I don’t think it will work- it will make him nervous and cautious. And he doesn’t need more nervous!

anita