Dear Flove:

You wrote: “People tell me, there are hurtful and s**& situations in every job”- I agree that most businesses/ work places are dysfunctional, some more than others: management is dysfunctional and personnel relationships are dysfunctional.

If for you to feel comfortable and confident (“I want a job where I feel comfy and confident”), you need to work for a business that is functional, both management and personnel, then you .. may never find such a business.

Maybe a different job will suit you better. Maybe studying further will lead you to a better job, I don’t know. But part of every job, as I see it, is to figure out how you can do a good job, be ethical, and how to  operate comfortably enough in the context of the specific dysfunctions of this or that workplace.

anita