Hi Anna,

From the little he has told me of his childhood this could possibly be true.  I mentioned he is from a different country/ cultural background.  What stands out to me about the little he’s shared of his past is his father would ‘beat’ him, his mother and his brothers if his father ever deemed it necessary and for their own good.  Yet he says he had a very happy childhood.  So it seems like my boyfriend believes these beatings his father would subject on him and his family to were completely normal and acceptable.  His father sounds like he was very controlling.  My boyfriend would mostly get beaten for things like skipping school dating girls (his family was very religious and that was forbidden) or showing any level of disrespect towards his father.

He would be absolutely furious if I suggested he get quality psychotherapy so not going to go there.