Dear Linda:

Lots of adult children say they had a happy childhood, especially people who had a miserable childhood. I learned that when a person says he or she had a happy childhood it means that the person has good memories.

It can be a miserable childhood with lots of abuse, but if there were four times a year that the child was happy, the child, and later the adult he becomes, will forever remember those times, referring to his childhood as happy.

His father beat everyone “for their own good”, how often parents say that as they relieve their distress via violence, feeling so much better and calm as a result!

So what is next, with your boyfriend?

I will be away from the computer for about fourteen hours. If you’d like post again, share more. I will read attentively and reply to you when I am back.

anita