Dear Christine:

Suffering from “severe anxiety”, and ADHD which is about anxiety, reads to me that working on the house is something he figures he needs to do, but it makes him anxious: there he is standing there in his home and the amount of  work that needs to be done overwhelms him. If he feels relatively calm one day and somehow manages to force himself, that is a one time event. So  he works a bit, maybe and he goes to Facebook to relax, or he thinks about doing work there, feels overwhelmed and goes to Facebook, to relax.

His job as an executive chef is stressful and very demanding as well as frustrating but he is able to do it. He is in the habit of doing it so he keeps doing it, keeps going and going, but not the house work- it is almost as if he is unable  to do it and maybe he is unable to do it. He may have the skill and the physical strength, but not the calm required; he wants it all done immediately and can’t be patient enough to get it done step by step by step, one step at a time.

I am guessing he has been on an overwhelm break these eight days. I don’t think he planned to ghost you and break up with you this way. Again, it is my guess.

What do you think?

anita