Couldn’t agree more! Change comes from within- and I like to surround myself with people who want to grow and learn from the past- not be paralyzed by it. I think he has some deep issues from the death of his Mom and then the sudden death of his father. He still blames himself for not being able to save his Dad. He was a very heavy drinker after the Mom died and then turned into a gambling addict. So much so that he was a high roller at the casino in CT and had free rooms every weekend etc. He had a lot of money but my boyfriend was left on the weekends to fend for himself while in HS. I feel bad for him, he’s not strong like I am..