Dear jennifer:

“we aren’t really on the same page with it comes to a party context as in I like to dance and she doesn’t .. she’s not a big fan of parties… we do ‘click’ in other areas”-

-two friends don’t have to be together in all contexts. Be with her  in the contexts that you both like/ click, and not in contexts that only one of you likes.

On the other hand, do attend a friend’s birthday party even if you don’t feel like it because it is only a once a year event.

Let’s say that your best friend wants to join her to a party of a friend of hers, a party with no dancing, where people play chess and you hate chess. It is perfectly fine for you to tell your best friend: no, I don’t want to. I like to dance and I don’t like chess.

What will not be fine is if you tell your best friend: no, I can’t make it to this party because I promised my mother to (whatever)-

-tell your friend the truth, do not lie. And better yet, make it a habit to not lie to anyone.

What do you think  about what I wrote here?

anita