Dear gia:

You are welcome. You wrote: “It’s like people cannot easily imagine that people in my profession experience bullying as well”-

-she is bullying you covertly, in ways that she can easily deny if confronted with it by anyone.

Because of the high standards you mentioned and the fact that she will probably deny her covert aggression and accuse you  of uncalled for aggression, if you do choose to respond to her covert bullying with an overt counter aggression, as I suggested (choose your words, with or without the f word)-

-see to it that you do so outside the earshot and sight of other people, so that it is a personal interaction, between you and her and no  one else is a party to  it or a witness to it.

anita