Anita,

It’s amazing to me how accurately you are able to pinpoint the issues I am currently facing. You’re right – I am scared of things that haven’t yet happened, and may never happen even if we do decide to breakup. Are you suggesting to tell myself I’m not afraid and embrace everything that comes my way rather than worry about the fears? I guess I have been so focused on my fears, I have not even been able to think rationally about the entire situation. I am letting my fears override everything.

Reading over your plan, it makes perfect sense. I had always figured I would need to sort out these things all on my own (ie. not talking to the coach, mutual friends, or my boyfriend about the situation and why it scares me). Having a plan of action already lessens my anxiety around the situation. Talking with the people in my social circle (including my boyfriend) will help me prepare for anything that comes my way. I think your advice is definitely something I need to put into action.

Thank-you so incredibly much for your advice. This is such an amazing community to receive so much support from. You have really helped me become less scared, feel like I am taking life into my own hands, and see the positives of my situation. I am so grateful. xxx