I was actually in my teens when the stress began. I do not have many memories from when i was younger. But, as I think back on it I really want to seem strong to her. I in fact did not like it when she said my sister has a cool head and knows how to solve problems. I want to be seen as a person that can solve problems – in this case, it is not about her perception but proof to me that i can indeed solve problems. I am not sure if it’s just my mom’s approval though. In my older post I mentioned i wanted to do well to ensure my manager would see me as a competent developer. I think i need to prove anything i want to believe about myself to others first. It may not be a bad thing because i may get delusional and end up having grandiose beliefs about myself but i am not sure where the line should be drawn in terms of taking other people’s judgement of me.