Dear gj:

Well, I don’t daydream this way anymore, but I do have the thought once in a while, that same feeling of maybe I am meant to be someone very special in the world. But then, I correct my thinking and say to myself: I am special. Just not that special, meaning, I do not have a talent that will get the world’s attention. My intelligence is not superior to many people’s intelligence, and so, there is no realistic reason to think that I will be an international star of any kind.

But it sure felt good to have those “maladaptive day dreaming”! It sure felt a whole lot better than feeling inferior and less than, incapable and inadequate.. that was a painful emotional experience. The day dreaming about greatness is an over compensation of the day-by-day-by day reality of feeling less-than, inadequate, incapable.

Reality is we function better in almost every area of life if we learn and the longer we learn, patiently.

anita