Dear AEG:

Well, she is receiving pension, living in a rented flat, having medical care, able to feed and clothe herself, having some social life, so she is not spiraling down, that is, she is not in danger of losing her pension or her flat and is comfortable enough as it is, comfortable enough to “reject someone reaching out”, someone with a job a home you  own and so forth.

Does that answer your question, “why does a person spiraling down.. reject someone reaching out?”

anita