I also have something that is really bothering me.

In our customs, the father is very important in the wedding. I don’t like the idea that he gets to be the centre of the family only for the public. He does not deserve that. And he has to give me away and i can’t stand to imagine participating in this false image. He gets away with everything he did. My mother says i should not ruin my life and it is just 5 mins but it bothers me a lot. He should not get to give me away. It would mean that he is allowed to do whatever he wants and i would still need him. I don’t know what to do but he should not get to act like a father when he wants to.