Dear Naaz:

I suggest that for as long as you are living with your parents and/or for as long as your father pays your bills, including the higher education you are planning on having, that you will be honest with them. Do not continue to betray their trust in you.

It will be okay for you to date this man today, if today you are no longer living with your parents and you not receiving money from them. Maybe he can arrange for you to move out and live elsewhere, maybe with him.

But if you choose to stay with your parents, be honest and transparent with them, don’t hide, don’t lie to  them. He said he is willing to wait for you, then let him wait for you to move out of your parents and no longer be financially supported by them, whatever it takes to make that happen.

Don’t fight with your parents. You can calmly present information to them, calmly tell them why you think this man is a good choice for you, but no arguments, no fighting.

anita