Dear Steve:

My guess is that the reason you do “not feel like it’s over” is because this has been an especially distressing time for you, anxious time, buying a new home, finances, repairs (roof, plumbing, etc.), and all this anxiety is now focused on the plumber-neighbor incident. It is common that when anxiety goes up, it nests in one place, one topic. It is similar  to fearful people whose fear nests in spiders. Your fear nesting in the incident is temporary though and once your general level of anxiety goes down, you will be over this incident.

What you need is down time, taking some kind of a vacation from this stressful time, even if it is a day at the beach or by a lake or the like.

Another point- the plumber working for you should not have cursed your neighbor, it is a bad business practice. Maybe you should let the plumber know it is bad practice and/or inform the company the plumber works for,  so that the plumber will not repeat this behavior.

anita